Why do we take things personally?

Frederik Imbo has beautifully explained this in his one of his speech in TED talk. So, before starting this if you are more interested in watching video then you can go and search on youtube about him. So let's go.....

Why we take things personally? This is the one question that doesn't come in the mind when we are taking things personally, how funny! 

There are two strategy to conquer taking things personally. The first one is "This is not about me", what does it mean?

let us take one example let say you are talking with your friend in the phone suddenly he cut your phone or not picking up or may be he is talking with someone else while with you on call. We take these things personally. We think he is not recognising me, not paying attention to me may be i am not that important to him. This attacks on our self respect and hurt us.

But on second side if we think that may be it is not about me. It might be possible that the person to whom he is talking is his father or mother or we can say more important than me simply. May be he is doing some urgent work and i disturbed him. So to conclude just think the matter with the perspective of other poeple also. 

The second strategy is "It is about me", what does it mean?

May be you have given a chance to people to insult you. May be there is your fault which you are regularly ignoring. Or speak up what you feel, let say if you are speaking to someone and he is not paying attention to you just say him or her that i am speaking very important thing of my life and you are not listening, this is not good it hurts me.

This will increases the chances of other person to understand you. So, don't judge yourself your own. You are more valuable than what you think. You should also keep your value.

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